Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Restart

This whole week has been such a washout

R and I both have had colds and are all sinusy and grumpy

I have been suffering from insomnia

Work is busy

We are both very depleted

R is less interested in playing and more interested in doing his own thing – he will snuggle and be affectionate just as always ( every morning I wake up with his arms tight around my neck in fact )

But he will not play

So example instead of asking me to blow bubbles in the bathtub – he will simply be counting with holding up all his bath foam number 1..2…3…4..5. and so on into the 100's

After one or two attempts, I give up

As always of course when stuck in these phases the best thing is to press the reset button

So tonight I am not going to think nor plan, nor try to play

Parenting a special needs kid is a marathon, not a sprint

Its okay to stop for a while

8 comments:

Maddy said...

Too right with a marathon not a sprint. Hope this bout of ill health didn't coincide with Spring break?
Best wishes for a speedy recovery

Julie said...

Wow, you are so right and how nice to hear you say that it is a marathon and not a sprint. Sometimes I just need to hear things in a different way. New perspective or something?!?! Today is a full moon. We're always a little crazy around here on a Full Moon (or the following night).

I hope you all feel better soon.

Trish @ Another Piece of the Puzzle said...

Yes, it's okay to let yourselves take a break. We want them to learn what is typical, and typically people don't push themselves so hard when they are sick.

Take care of yourself and your little guy and try to enjoy a little down time. (And lots of vitamin C!)

Lyndsey said...

Agreed. We've been struggling with the same cold in my house, and the girls are almost impossible to interact with. Hope you and R are feeling better soon.

Territory Mom said...

I love what you said about the reset button. That is so true. I think our kids just get tired sometimes. I hope you guys are feeling better.

aninont said...

Dear K,
I really hope you get a little break,maybe take off from work for 1-2 days,watch a movie/read a book with R snuggling with you.
I have not been writing.April 5th was the day my mother died 21 years ago when I was only 11 years old. I dedicated the whole day, believe it or not crying in her memory.I wish she were here to see her grandchildren, me.. as a mother.
Motherhood in general in a marathon,not just for a special needs child but for all children.
We think kids needs us when they are kids, but my need for my mother has grown over the years,especially after I became a mother, ... I hope this marathon is reaaaaly loooong and the bond between mother and child grows stronger with each passing year.

I hope you feel better. will write more later.

aninont said...

Got a few more moments to write...

We are going through this rough patch at home too with some sort of viral illness and we have all been crabby and isolated.
I stim by reading the news on the internet and the rest of the family by watching TV.

I loved your blog about autism on autism awareness day and had DH read it. He thought it was beautifully written!

This week has also been emotionally draining for me as you can tell by my previous comment,
I have been thinking more about my mother and what being a mother means.
First we need to take care of ourselves, ...

take care

Becki said...

You are so right, it is ok to stop for a while. I just got asked my a family member yesterday what we are doing right now as it is break from school for Bug and I said nothing.. we are just taking a break..it is what we both needed.

Floortime Lite Mama

On my life as the mother of an adorable 5 year old with Autism and Apraxia