Sunday, January 2, 2011

Dances with Rain


June 4 - 2009

Last evening DH and I are settling into watch Medium (a show where a psychic finds suspects by dreams)

DH and I always castigate the show.

Me from a Feminist standpoint (how come the only crime show where the woman is the main protagonist, is one where she catches criminals, not by her brains but by her "feminine intuition" )

DH from a lack of logic from the spirits ( if the dead people spirits want her to find the suspect why do they not tell her the whole story in the first dream- why do it in installments? ).Additionally her family is always on the brink of some crisis or another which provides plenty of opportunities for joint eye rolls.

 
Despite our low opinion, we DVR and watch it every Wednesday over ginger tea and popcorn after I get back from work.

And enjoy ourselves tremendously.

But yesterday evening its not to be

The new swimming pool( if you can call it that ) is beckoning like a beacon to R

Swib !! he says

Its starting to rain heavily.

But we pretty much say no to nothing for R

( the two things that we say no to are -bad manners or bad for R – that is it- we say no to nothing else. "Following the child's lead " is a Floortime Principle that has pervaded every part of our life )

And of course I can never ignore purposeful communication

So we go out to the pool in the rain

And play all our games.

I must pick him up and swing him according to the chants of an rhyme ( Zip Zap Zoop –right side together – left side together – a rhyme my niece taught me on a train journey once 8 years ago. My dog had died recently and my niece -only 4 – was trying to cheer me up – I have adapted it to Floortime purposes and R loves it )

I am sure he will be fed up with the rain after he is done with the pool and we are both soaking wet

But its not to be

He insists – "Siduh Huduh"( Swing me a 100 times )

By this time we are wetter than fish and I have given up trying to avoid getting too wet.

So after swinging I agree resignedly, when he says "Jumpuh jumpuh jumpuh "

We get on the trampoline which is wet and slick .

Hold hands

Jump higher and higher

Making circles.

Rain has made a little pool in the center of the trampoline and the water jumps up in rhythm with us.

We go on like this for almost a half hour

Interrupted only by the thunder and R's giggles and squeals of  "Hyduh "( higher)

This dance in the half light of a dark sky feels like magic

If it is all about not waiting for the rain to pass but learning to dance in it.

Then surely this lovely life has brought me both

27 comments:

Heather said...

Again you have me crying at my desk! ;) Beautiful, as always.

Becki said...

Beautiful post! I can just see you two dancing there on the trampoline in the rain. :)

Becki said...

Beautiful post! I can just see you two dancing there on the trampoline in the rain. :)

Niksmom said...

Ah, K, another lovely post. This took my breath away.:
"This dance in the half light of a dark sky feels like magic
If it is all about not waiting for the rain to pass but learning to dance in it.
Then surely this lovely life has brought me both"

There is an ethereal quality to some ofyour writing. A qulity which invokes such a deeply peaceful spiritual tug in my heart. Just lovely. Thank you.

Lisa said...

Very Lovely post, and what is even more lovely is your understanding of these moments.

R, you are blessed, and K you are blessed!

Hugs,
Lisa

Julie said...

I love that! Every word. =)

robin said...

We are huge Medium fans over here too! I love the interaction between husband and wife.

We also love to play in the rain!

It's awesome that you allow yourself to follow R into the rain and be there with him...

(I also agree with Niksmom.)

Darcy said...

Aww "swib." That melts my heart. I'm so glad I found another link to your blog. When I changed servers I lost this link and was going to ask you for another tonight. I really missed rohan's updates.

PS. Playing in the rain is the BEST!

All About the Bailey's said...

So very sweet and touching. R will forever remember the times you didn't say "no" for he is teaching you to live life to the fullest....as do all our children.

Julie said...

What a sweet, funny, and cool post. Will you adopt me Kajoli?

K said...

you guys are soooo kind - thank u

Anonymous said...

Just beautiful. *tear*

lonestar said...

This is beautiful, I especially love the last line, "If it is all about not waiting for the rain to pass but learning to dance in it.
Then surely this lovely life has brought me both"

Dancing in the rain with you is sure to be a great memory for R :).

KWombles said...

Oh, beautiful! You know when you read something that has your eyes watering, your nose tingling on your mouth open in an oh of wonder? This post did that for me!

MultipleMum said...

I am such an advocate for the power of a good dance in the rain. What a special memory for you and your little mate. Hi from Blog Gems x

jazzygal said...

What is about the rain and our kids?! Sensory no doubt but my WiiBoy (age 11!)still loves to play in the rain...and jump on the trampoline!

Pssst....don't tell anyone, but I love medium too ;-)

xx Jazzy (via Blog Gems)

Big Daddy Autism said...

"If it is all about not waiting for the rain to pass but learning to dance in it."

Acceptance!

Lavender Luz said...

I'm with your husband on Medium.

What a fantastic post, K! I run Perfect Moment Mondays which is about noticing moments exactly like this each week.

Love this: "If it is all about not waiting for the rain to pass but learning to dance in it."

BlogGems #25

4timesblessed said...

That is a wonderful post and I too have issues saying No... although I have had to attempt to draw a line but not too strict of one. :)

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Rachel Cohen-Rottenberg said...

This is just gorgeous! I am so glad that you grab these moments, and that you say no to so little. I'm another parent who grabbed every moment I could with my kid, despite the fact that, like you, I worked at a job every day, and I'm so glad I did. Although it seems like our kids will never grow up, they do, and all too quickly. There are so many phases they go through that pass by so fast. I'm really happy that you are seizing these precious moments. When your little guy is 18 and able to see the top of your head, you will thank yourself for it. :-)

Loz said...

Says much for living in the Precious Present.
I'm over from Blog Gems

@jencull (jen) said...

I haven't read any of the Floortime stuff, but I wrote a post once called 'Following my child' and the way I work with my son sounds very like Floortime, I must look into it and see if I can refine my way of doing things:)

I laughed out loud at the male/female take on Medium, do ye still watch it?

Thanks for joining in Blog Gems. Jen

Anonymous said...

Where do you get your energy? I sometimes hide from my kids because they wear me out (favorite spots are the guest room closet and the furnace room).

Þorgerður said...

Sweet :)

Brenda said...

I'm right there with you, jumping and swimming in the rain! I can feel the joy from both of you.

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