Sunday, September 26, 2010
Its been along and weary week and I have decided to have a guilt-free 2 days on the weekend
Some of my friends say they want an autism-free vacation
Autism –free vacations in my mind are impossible
For me , I try to take vacation from my role as therapist mom and guilty mom
We have a lovely lazy day
DH and I watch movies
R coils around us – like a cat
Instructs me to do things that he his watching on the DVD
Sing songs but instead of pointing use the flashlight to light the part
So sing "Toe, knee chest nut" but instead of touching – shine your flashlight on the toe on the knee
Playing little word games ( it's a simple game we played since when he was 3 when I used to use any way to get into turn taking .. the rule is that you can change only one letter to make a different word )
And then not waiting for me to take my turn PIES
So the lazy day goes on
I think I see one car the whole day
I eye the woods longingly on Saturday evening
I would take R but he will want to be carried in 10 minutes ( or less )
As R has been remarkably anxious about me leaving lately for anywhere but office – I don't really dare leave
I am a prisoner I whine reproachfully
DH smiles and tells me he will come with me so between us we can carry R when he asks to be carried
And so we walk together the three of us
This is one of my iconic moments – I tell DH smugly – its like we are a family from an advertisement
But its so much more -
It occurs to me how much I love these two and how much I love the three of us
There are people who are good separately but then when you put they don't work together quite as well
We are better together
We play the 1..2…..3 game – where we swing R between us and raise him high on 3 .
Much squeals of joy
And no, he does not ask to be carries
We read out the silly names of all the other cabins on the trail
A coy " Allison's dream" written with a flourish next to a box of fake flowers
To R , I am sure names lile "Kiss the moon" are quite perplexing and I see the wheels of his mind turning
We do a leaf color hunt ( oh how I love Fall )
There is such peace in these woods
So different from the hurry …do more…. do faster… which is the rythm of my everyday
It occurs to me that there has to be a better way of doing things
Like the saying goes
"Nature is never in a hurry and yet everything gets done "
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