Pretend play !
These two words have often made my heart sink. Many developmental psychologists - especially the Flootime psychologists - stress the great importance of pretend play
But this particular ability just would not come in my child
I sought advice from all my friends whose kids were able to do this, bought playsets of what R liked to watch on TV - the Little Einsteins. the Elmo figurines, this last winter even a dollhouse with all the furniture, the Little People everything
Our house started to resemble a toy store
But, though, this child was interested - labeled everything accurately - he never played..
Until this summer
Suddenly now when his Dad takes him to the Mall on Fridays for their lunch date - instead of running to the Apple Store - he now pulls him to the kiosk with the stuffed toys.
He has been eagerly choosing a Wonder Pet and then a Backyardigan each time.
Then he started taking them places.
Then kissing them goodnight
And then just the other day - after he had finished drinking his drink
I watched with my eyes filling with tears of joy as he put Linny, Tuck and Ming Ming turn by turn to get their drink as well !
My friend Jos said something once - much before I entered the special needs world myself - about her daughter L -
"I believe L will do everything , but in her own time. I dont mind .. she can take all the time she needs .. but I have faith she will do it all."
Last night as R took Tuck with him to read a book in his pre bedtime swing, I thought of Jos's words again and wondered how freeing it would be if I just assumed that it would all turn out all right.
Had faith that R would do it all- eventually.
Just concentrated on providing all the learning opportunities
Without worrying about any outcomes - assured that they would come - eventually
Because time and again it seems that R is on his own timetable. But is also in his own way, developing beautifully.
Goodbye Worry .
Go away and stay away.
And take your toxic friend Fear with you too !
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