Saturday, June 27, 2009
SOOC Saturday - Hope
Here is an intricate ( for a 4 year old ) crossword I found on the frig a couple of days ago
I thought back to another time
Two years ago
Though it seems a lifetime away
When we were in the midst of all the diagnostics and evaluations.
I remember us filling out the sections on "Cognitive"
We were so alarmed at all the things R did not do - Stack blocks, string beads etc etc.
I often wondered - is it me ?
Am I not sitting down with blocks teaching him to make a tower- with one on top of the other?
We did not even have any beads in the house! Were other parents teaching their kids arts and crafts all the time ?
But even in the gloomy times full of doubt and fear, we insisted that R had no cognitive impairment
"He has intelligent eyes" DH would say ( as though that settled the matter )
"He Bends the Dumdum so he does not have to tilt his hand" I would say triumphantly( Hence Proved !!!)
How patient and kind these evaluators were, (though I do wonder whether they felt pity in their hearts and I am glad I do not know what they wrote down in those notebooks )
Nevertheless, we have always clung to the idea of R's cognitive potential.
Even in the bleak times
And none of his therapists teachers ever say otherwise.
( not that people with MR have less worth - I love the persons with MR I know - in my eyes - they seem to have their own unique potential)
How do you measure the intelligence of a child?
A child who may not understand your verbal question or has no desire to impress you?
I think intelligence tests for young auties especially speech impaired auties are bogus!
And I do not buy the idea of "functional IQ either"( ie if you are not able to take a test - aren't you at least functionally low in IQ? )
I would rather focus on potential !
Of which I believe R has plenty.
And be full of hope
All will be right,
Look to the light.
Morning was ever the daughter of night;
All that was black, will be all that is bright,
- Author unknown
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