Saturday, December 1, 2012

The last days of November

How will  it be December tomorrow ?

 I rush to chronicle what I can of the past 2 weeks ( Thanks to the pictures on my phone - seriously what did we do before phones on our cameras)

It has been rather a good couple of weeks as right in the middle of it was a 4 day weekend

 Thanksgiving Weekend

This is to be our greet weekend of settling in .

I have 4 days off and have decided to do no office work these 4 days

Settling his playroom is always so bittersweet for me

I am made so aware of how fast the time is passing - we declutter a little bit but I cannot throw away some very babyish books as they have such memories attached to them

For instance this book is when we discovered he was hyperlexic -

DH asked R to point out the "elephant" and instead of pointing to the pictures, R pointed to the word


Or the book he was obsessed with that first year of Preschool...

"Barney's 12 days of Christmas"  - eventually his teacher Xeroxed and laminated it for us so he would not have to do without it over Christmas

Such kindness
We unpack a lot


and snuggle a lot( R will usually sit like a cat on the arm of my/DH's arm chair )



 DH puts together a red ( what else for it is my favorite color ) book shelf that we saw at IKEA that I "must have"( I will take a picture of it finished next time and you will see why I love it so much )


Good bye to Miss Judith

On Friday - we decide to spend the morning working and so we take R to meet Miss Judith for a last day of babysitting

R is perishing to meet Miss Judith - so we ask her to babysit for the day

OMG he is so excited that he is going to see her !! he is literally jumping up and down

He has packed his bag with his essentials - his current obsession Chica Chica boom boom , the numbers and his cap with 5 stuck on it ( in the book 5 is wearing a "top hat" and so this must be dramatized )

They will go to our temporary housing apartment complex  ( for that is where she stays ) .

R loved this place with the Pizza and the mall and the elevators

She sends me a text saying that " I just love R . Having him is a blessing. He gives me so many hugs

We are really broken hearted that miss Judith is leaving for Florida - forever:-(

I don't know how to break this to R as there have been too many goodbyes these past few months and not enough hellos

( So when he tells me in the night that "Miss Judith will come from Florida later" - I don't contradict him)



Zumba

I have started to go to Zumba once a week  -

I dance all my stress away for an hour every Friday , while DH and go swimming at our health club and its very nice to have this hour of pleasure every week 

Planning

One of the things that DH and I do always is plan meals .

One of my friends said that she never plans her meals as she likes to only cook what she is in the mood to eat.

But we hate the hassle of cooking and thinking about what's for dinner.

So DH shops and chops and I cook and plan



The new house

I am so glad to be in a proper house again with all our cooking gadgets  .

I love this kitchen - after the tiny apartment we stayed in for 2 months this is such a nice change !
it does rain ALL the time so you can rarely go outside but this house know this and has many many windows to make up for it( these pictures are from the realtors website and make it look much nicer than it is )

Back on track with the home program

We are still hunting for the therapists that we want to work for R

I also am FINALLY I am trying to get back in the routine of playing with R in the evenings  -

But its not easy - I recognize that anything that is not on his own terms - we have a very hard time getting a back and forth connection going

He loves being with us - just as long as its on his terms

When we try to change the game - he just ignores

Such is his passive aggression

We compensate with atleast creating lots of fun new experiences

Outside ( on the 1 in 10 days that it does not rain )


And in stores when it rains

IKEA is one of our faves

It has a place where you can leave your child to play under supervision and he is simply perishing to go there ( I take a picture of him from outside  - what a lovely thing it is to see your child enjoying themselves while you can shop in peace )


It feels harder than before and I feel guilty about this

Its as though he wants to stay in his comfort zone as much as possible and we have to keep expanding it
Still as I watch DH and R snuggled up in an arm chair (ironically watching Max and his Dad in Parenthood ) -

I think how lucky we are that R is so emotionally connected with us

I think we have a ways to go - in settling in still, finding the right home therapists, getting some leisure in our lives

Getting that rhythm and routine that is essential to a calm and peaceful life

But I think we are on our way

14 comments:

Lyndsey said...

I miss you and your lovely family! Seeing R's face when I put the girls on the bus was one of the bright moments of my mornings.

Floortime Lite Mama said...

Miss you too my love

Deb said...

Glad to hear you are settling in! We have similar issues with Ethan...I'm so grateful he wants to be connected and spend time with us, but often the play has to be on his terms. Like you we feel frustrated sometimes but thankful!

Yuji said...

Your new house is beautiful! But it is the love you all have for each other that is making it a beautiful home. I think that it won't be too much longer before you feel really settled in.

Looking for Blue Sky said...

I love the new house! And so glad that you are settling in, but I had no idea you had IKEA there too, I love that shop :)

Kris said...

Your home is beautiful and it certainly does seem as though R has a deep connection to you! What a sweetie!

rhemashope said...

Congratulations on your new home, my friend. Love to you and your sweet family.

Tanya Savko said...

Yes, it sounds like you are settling in well and your new house is gorgeous! So happy for you. xo

Bright Side of Life said...

I love your house and all the beautiful scenery. I don't envy you the rain! It's fabulous that R has that connection with you and as for the photo of him cuddling up to his Dad..... well, my heart just melted!

robin said...

Can't wait to see the red shelving! The pic of your kitchen with the greenery in the background looks awesome! Love the play area your IKEA has! The closest one to me is a couple hours away and it doesn't look like that....makes me wanna go shop there again! Glad you're in your new place now... :)

lisa said...

Hey K, visit the new blog for the "smart chicks and dudes" virtual reunion...I look forward to seeing pictures and your update as well as our old group. Happy Holidays, dear friend
http://smartchicksanddudesvirtualreunion.blogspot.com/

Kim said...

It sounds as if you are definitely on your way. I'm glad to read it. The house looks gorgeous, but I know that it is filled with love and that matters more.

Þorgerður said...

Sounds like things are falling into place my best wishes to you all and especially R

Jenny S-A said...

I love your red shelf!
And we also have the problem that in order to engage our son, he has to initiate & continue under his own terms, at least the majority of it to his own terms. He'll bend to his therapists floortime sessions - but with us - well, I've given up on structured floortime long ago - we just play with him, interacting as much as we can & try to keep a lot of toys, books, etc. that are geared to good interaction, fine motor, education, etc.
I don't know how one really does it structured day to day.

Floortime Lite Mama

On my life as the mother of an adorable 5 year old with Autism and Apraxia