Tuesday, October 18, 2011

TST : Sleeping with Snakes


I think many of you know that I  work in the field of consumer psychology

But I did not start out this way -

About 15 years ago I wanted to work in the field of environment and social work

This is where I first went to Grad School - The Indian Institute of Forest Management

The program was really eclectic and I spend two of the happiest years of my life there -

This was also the place where I met my DH and that may be a large part of the magic

It was housed on the top of a mountain where just a few students about 18 in my class lived

I think a large part of the experience was the location and building.

The building was a very very unusual.

Full of arches and stoops like this one - this arch is a water reservoir as well as the entrance

The architect won an award for the building -
He was inspired by  a town called Mandu that  existed in the 1500's in India .. you can see the resemblance in here -- see the remains of Mandu below. ( I love the name of the town Mandu - especially its older name Shadiabad - city of happiness ) Image from Wikipedia



Living in these buildings had significant impact on   20 year old me

The eclectic and unusual program involved us spending weeks in Himalayas studying medicinal herbs

 One night DH and I trekked and drove all through a lot of dark mountains and ended up here. I can tell you it was something to wake up to the Majestic Himalayas.

All we did was stare at the mountains all day and as I write this post - 17 years later .. it takes me back to that other time

Another part of the  program that took us to the Taj Mahal- which is every bit as romantic as it sounds  - what can you say about the love of a king for his wife that he build a mausoleum for her that took 20,000 workers and 20 years to make.
That when he was imprisoned .. his only wish was that his prison be in a place where he could always look at the grave of his wife ( the dark legend of the story is that he had the tongues removed of those architects and right arms amputated so that they would not be able to replicate it ever .. Plus he was in prison because his son overthrew him and imprisoned him.... but let us not dwell on these unfortunate aspects of the story .  )
We traveled to strange and remote places using not the most sophisticated transport and learned about ancient village practices from villagers

We spend time at arms-length from elephants
On  many occasion we saw pythons lying on the roads, unable to move, having swallowed a small animal

There were leopards on campus.

Once DH and I saw a leopard leaping across the road in the night .

I told DH naively at that time, that this was the biggest cat I had ever seen - and was soundly teased the next day - when it was reported that a leopard was on the loose

One of my professors used to tell this story of man eating tigers that ended with this line

"The man eating tiger was caught by the villagers and shot.. poor fellow ."

The bad guys in this story were of course the villagers ..

the man eating tiger was seen an completely fine and only doing what it was meant to do as the villagers had encroached upon the forest and ergo it was their fault that they were eaten

All this unusual living and learning , led to a great broadening of mind and spirit

One of the debates that raged in the community was the case of poisonous snakes

One side felt that since we lived in the forest - we were really living in their home and should absolutely do our best to not come in their way and invite harm.

This side's point was that a snake life was just as valuable as a human life

The other side felt that we had a right to live and our right to life was more impt than the snake's

A heated debate raged for months

Finally the conclusion was that we had to check fangs before we did any harm to a snake

One day one of our seniors came back from a late night drinking session  studying session

As soon as he came to his room , he fell upon his bed and fell asleep

When he woke the next morning he found that he had been

LYING IN THE BED WITH A SNAKE ALL NIGHT

The snake was crushed with his weight and so he came to no real harm

(But once he saw the danger he had been in - he had a fever for a week )

This story is true and has been written for my darling friend Rachel and Mr Daddy's blog contest True Story Tuesday where people submit their outrageous but true stories here 
I normally dont participate as I am not funny enough but I want to show support for my beloved Rachel who has been through a great  loss of her adored MIL recently . Please do visit her - she has an awesome funny touching blog and she has a special place in all our hearts 




18 comments:

lifebythecreek said...

Oh my goodness! So... did the snake have fangs? I think I would have died if I woke up to that! But what a fascinating way to spend those years of your life; I know those memories will last you a lifetime. (and I sort of am in the camp of "poor tiger"... if you move into their house, you have to expect them to be a little ticked off!)

Lizbeth said...

Suddenly I fell very boring for sleeping in my bed without a snake! I can't believe your adventures. The pictures are stunning. And to have met you husband in the midst of it all--now that's the real story. Lovely.

Rachel said...

Oh K!!!

I am so tickled that you joined in - and I truly went back and reread and looked at all those marvelous pictures... it was far more than a funny story - it was a beautiful tale of that time in your life - with a side of fated romance!

No wonder you speak out of such richness... what amazing experiences!


And silly girl... you didn't quite say which side of the camp you fell on?

And I think I would have had a heart attack if I'd awoken with a snake beneath me! I got chills thinking of it!

Thank you so much for joining in... this felt like far more than a humorous punch line - I loved seeing your memories laid out like that!

Julie said...

I loved this! I'm so happy you joined with your story... and I love Rachel too. :)

(LOVED those photos and memories from that time!!!!)

Laurel said...

What a wonderful story! The whole thing, not just the snake (although that is ... remarkable!). I know that it is not really the subject of your blog, but I would still like to hear more.

I think you could write a wonderful book about all sorts of things. (In your spare time, of course)

robin said...

Awesome!!!!!!!!! Not only did I not know what field you work in but also which field you loved so much! My DH wanted to be in that kind of field and he ended up in something totally different too! I absolutely loved the pictures as well as your narrative with them! You still look as lovely as you did then! How cool that you and DH loved that and shared many experiences there together! Definitely an enrichment!

Lisa Quinones Fontanez said...

Oh my! I was cringing the whole way through...LOL

But I loved the story and the photos. Going over now to check out the site :)

K- floortime lite mama said...

@lifebythecreek - most certainly did have fangs -- I too am in the camp of poor tiger
@Lizbeth @ Julie @ Laurel@Lisa thank u so much for appreciating my odd life story
@Rachel thank you so much darling - wish I could do something more for u .. I would take you out to Starbucks if we were not on the opposite sides of the US
@Robin - I had no idea that your DH was also interested in this field - thank you for the kind comment on looking nice :-)

vinipathak said...
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vinipathak said...

Dear Mrs Kajoli Tankha,
I am an IIFMight :) writing this post in an euphoric mood, its so nice to know that you still remeber those days so passionately. Its like some dream you lived and now we are!!!
Well to add little, about the present IIFM, the batch strength has increased, but the beauty of campus in poignant indeed....
still the leopard threatens us!!! We can some time see two poisonous snakes fighting, one morning I woke up and there was one snake near our gate!!!
These days dogs have become an integral part of IIFM (you can see Pinka's profile on face book)
We sometimes go for tracking in the campus, exploring the caves :)
Its so nice to read your love story, there are still some of your juniors maintaining the romantic legacy.
I am in first year so yet to visit natural beuty of Incredible India in the field trip :)
Hope we too have some great experiences like your's
IIFM is a place which transforms one's ideology, joins to the environment and at the same time teaches to manage matters sustainable manner.
Hope to meet you soon in the campus.
Vini Pathak
PFM 2013

K- floortime lite mama said...

You made my day.. On a lunch date with A and read out your comment to him
What fun

scooterpie said...

Wow! What an amazing experience-India sounds like such an exotic and beautiful place. I would LOVE to visit there some day! You are absolutely beautiful, then and now :)

RaD said...

Wow. What happened to the snake afterwards?

I'm not sure if I'd cry or laugh in that kinda situation! :)

Yuji said...

Thanks for sharing such a great story from your interesting past!

Mr. Daddy said...

K, that was one of the best TST's I have ever read :o)

TST's are not about being funny, they are about being yourself....

sometimes that is funny, and sometimes sad, and sometimes somewhere in between.

But you have a gift for sure, of showing the beauty of living. I hope you continue to share that with us :o)

Devbrat said...

Hello K,
Great memories indeed!!
I solemnly testify as a witness all that you have said!! :-)
I also confirm that I am an eye witness to the unfolding of magical love story of K & A! (Being an IIFMite of the same batch as K).

BTW: Have you forgotten your pet dog at IIFM... "Chappan Tikli"?

- Dev

K- floortime lite mama said...

Debu .. how lovely to read your comment .. never would I forget chappan .. what a doll he was

angam said...

very beautifully written and nostalgic, iifm.

Floortime Lite Mama

On my life as the mother of an adorable 5 year old with Autism and Apraxia