Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Bits of January

January has been a busy busy month
But I wanted to write down some bits of January so I dont forget

Snow

We are getting a LOT of snow

Especially in our cabin

DH is just sooooo cool when he puts the snow chains on the car tires - I am seriously impressed



We have inches and inches of snow and R having recently read a book on snow gives me random bits of information about it -

"Snow is cold , Snow is wet"

We have been noticing how much he likes books on facts , rather than stories. This is the exact opposite of me as a child

Since we are trying to teach him the "wh" questions we have switched to books with facts and he just eats them up

But of course we will need to get back to stories as this is what he really needs to get
Friend

One of our close friends is visitng from South Africa

Lots of fun chatting and drinking endless cups of ginger tea. He loves to take walks which is so awesome.

DH , I and he have known each other now for almost 16 years and he is practically family

He has just returned from South Africa and wants to experience the great american road trip.

He plans to  drive the 140 all the way to the Grand Canyon.

We have loads of fun planning out various road trip options.

America is brimming with such stunning  beauty wherever you turn, that we are spoiled for choice .

We have told him, though, that if he feels homesick and  wants to come back the guest bedroom will be made up and ready for him

Travel

Unfortunately I need to travel a lot this month .

This gives me such pangs of guilt - especially since R is having loads of testing these two weeks and his therapist and teacher write in their notes that R appeared stressed and anxious . And that miraculously he has amazing days the day after I return. My cup of guilt runneth over.

Thank goodness DH is a SAHD- and a pretty amazing one at that -  as it provides our sensitive child with a stable base

Wedding Anniversary


We have been married for 12 years this January and I can honestly say that our marriage is just wonderful

Have you ever seen pictures of an Indian wedding ?

Well in the Indian culture the bride wears red and gold ornaments , the groom rides on horse and god of fire is witness to your wedding vows


People talk about the first year of marriage as the best .. but I feel like I am loving our marriage more as time passes .
I think we become smarter as we grow older

In our 20's if someone were to ask us the question  of who we would want to be on a deserted island with - we say that we would want to be with Brad Pitt

In our 30's on  we know that if we were ever on a deserted island, I would want to be with someone who could fish, light a fire, make us smile, love us and be a friend

Progress

Despite the stress, R continues to slowly and steadily progress

He is very interested in number sequences now and makes number patterns . he counts in 3's and 5's and 10's

Here he is making a set in 3's so  1,4,7 and 2,5,8 and 3,6,9 - then he reverses them. The interesting thing is that he can start from where-ever - so its not a memorized pattern


We have our Therapist team meeting on Sunday

We make amazing chocolate cupcakes with cream cheese icing - that I urge them to take home as I know I will devour them willy nilly

His speech therapist has done an evaluation

At present he has an expressive language of 3 years 6 months  and a receptive language of 3 years and 8 months

We are overjoyed ( especially since our therapist told us that R was stressed during the test ( as I was out of town and did not answer many things that he knows )

Not too  long ago I remember crying over a report which stated baldly that  his  receptive language was 6 months and expressive was 0 months ( yes his expressive language was that of a new born )

Even a year ago, he was at 1.5 years

His ABLLS are also being conducted and he has made dramatic progress in that as well

Yes chronologically he is 6 years and 2 months old - so he is still very behind - we are well  aware of this

But we have truly shifted our focus

We look at the distance he has traveled and are so proud of him and so grateful to God

For he works so hard and has such courage

As one of my favorite sayings goes.

"What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lives within us."

14 comments:

Trish said...

Such progress he is making - how wonderful!! I can hear how hard it is for you to travel, and I just want to say while your guys might miss you when you are gone, that doesn't change the fact that you are an amazing mom who is moving heaven and earth for her son.

{{{MANY HUGS}}}

robin said...

I love that wedding picture of you two! That quote is one of my favorites. I think he's come a long way overall and particularly in the last year! WTG R!!

Rachel said...

The DISTANCE. Just wow. Think of how far he has come in such a short time. And truly, it is nothing short of love that has brought him there (yours for him, and his for you).

I am rather jealous of your visiting friend...

And I love your wedding photo!

I too, love my marriage now more than ever :) We are blessed, aren't we friend?

danette said...

Wow, I could see he was making good progress from reading your posts but seeing it quantified like that, way to go R!

Love your wedding picture, happy anniversary! :)

Kim said...

wonderful progress! I am so impressed with the math! Lovely pictures (you are gorgeous!) What a wonderful experience for your friend--to take a road trip, my husband and I were just talking about that last night--that we would love to take a couple months in the summer and travel around with the Roc, show him more of our great country.

Love your posts, as always.

Lynn said...

I can't get past the fact that you make cupcakes for your team meetings. Now I feel like a slacker!

I've actually been to an Indian wedding. Don't remember there being a fire though!

TherExtras said...

Wonderful progress! So happy for you all. And despite the guilt and stress of separation, perhaps that is exactly what will hold R to you for long run. It is so good for a father and son to spend time together. Barbara

Li said...

Yay for R! It's amazing how our kids can just suddenly leap forward, isn't it? And I love your wedding photo and your description of an ideal marriage. Your posts are always so full of love and joy.

Kris said...

Wonderful progress!!!

kathleen said...

I too love the wedding picture..I love the idea of the color red..it is so vibrant..full of life.

The progress of your little one is always a joy to read..he has come so far..and will continue to travel ahead...lovely..

I too think marriage is better as it ages..like wine. It matures and the partners compliment each other more and more..

As always lovely lovely post...

Kathy said...

It is always gratifying to focus on how far you have come, instead of the distance still to be traveled. This progress report made me smile.

Þorgerður said...

Way to go... and what wonderful progress in language.
Beautiful wedding picture :)

Julie said...

It is always so heartwarming to hear how well R is doing. I am so happy for him and for you!

Happy Anniversary! Our first year of marriage was NOT our best! Overall it just keeps getting better. Lucky me. ;)

korin said...

Happy Anniversary! I've been to several Indian weddings and they are always so beautiful and SO much fun! (not to mention the food, oh, the food!)
I love this note about the progress, he's doing so well!
PS. that too is one of my fave quotes, it was painted on my first office wall 10 years ago!

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