One of these things is his focus and enjoyment on what he is interested in
There is much to be said about social referencing ( indeed its a big one we are teaching now )
But a part of me loves his focus on his interests
( Indeed its a big one I am teaching myself.. how to enjoy life and things and experiences without people-pleasing and impressing being my primary purpose.
For often this acute focus on the way I come across to people, is my primary source of unhappiness.
Even when its not a source of unhappiness - its certainly is a skewed and narrow filter through which to look at, to enjoy and live life )
Here he is – sitting outside the Blue Willow Inn - engrossed in the book ( the scintillating tale of Barney's 12 days of Christmas ) that he must finish now- regardless of what is around him .
While I want him to pose for a cute mommy-and-me picture. I so want to ask him again to come to me and look at the camera
But then, I suddenly realize that the memory I want to keep of this moment is not the pose for the camera
But of the things that people like R and people like me can learn from one another
A way to enjoy life through people
And a way to enjoy life with your own interests
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24 comments:
Great picture and story! Visiting from Melody's @ Slurping Life. Have a marvelous weekend!
www.marvelousmommy.com
So true. I just love reading your blog, you give me a lot to think about! Lovely picture.
I dont' think that I have read one post of yours that hasn't spoken to my heart....
You truly are one of God's special treasures...
R and your DH are very lucky and blessed to have you.
great post AGAIN!!!!
Your writing is beautiful and I love this moment.
I know I say this all the time, but it's true. You always touch my heart and teach me. The photo is perfect.
Like Mr. Daddy said, you're one of God's special treasures and so is R. Think maybe God knew what He was doing when He paired you guys? :)
This post, makes my heart smile. And my face. Absolutely beautiful.
K,
You rock, actually your whole family does. Thanks for your thoughts for Gage and I.
Hugs,
Lisa
Love this so much. So good to be reminded that it's not all about teaching our kids but learning from them as well.
MR. Daddy - your post made me cry - because you are spot-on. I haven't been keeping up lately, K. You're still beautiful . . . not that you need to care that I see that, of course! lol ;) (((hugs)))
Beautiful! I love the story behind the photo - that is what is important and remembered.
What a wonderful outlook and a wonderful picture.
Love that you captured the moment just as it was. And he will probably enjoy looking at it when he's older and recalling that he loved that book!
(And it is always heartwarming to me - kids who love books! :)
As always, a very sweet picture and a sweet post. There's a Blue Willow Inn here in GA, but I don't think it's the same one, is it?
I love the picture...and your way with words, as always. You seem to put into words thoughts that I have, but can't express. I love taking pictures and it used to frustrate me that Daniel wouldn't pose or look at the camera. Occasionally I still ask him to look at the camera, but I love our pictures so much more now...because we're capturing photos of LIFE. There is so much more depth than just a cheesy smile at this or that landmark. hehe! =) I love how you took the picture anyway as a this-is-us-moment.
I love this, the picture and the story it tells, and your perspective on it. I figured out a long time ago that I wasn't going to be able to get the "nice, posed" pictures I wanted at the time, but it took a little longer for me to let go of being frustrated about it and really appreciate the "this is my boys being themselves" photos as they were. I have to say, I think the "being themselves" pictures are so much better and I love looking back at those (and capturing new ones) :).
Sweet shot! R is adorable and your blog is inspiring ;D!!
This is the Blue Mist Inn in TN. Kari, you are correct the Blue Willow Inn is in GA - K and I have enjoyed the food there.
"While I want him to pose for a cute mommy-and-me picture. I so want to ask him again to come to me and look at the camera
But then, I suddenly realize that the memory I want to keep of this moment is not the pose for the camera"
I love this part. So true!! Our girl doesn't like having her picture taken, and I learned at some point not to try to force the issue. We capture the moments that are there to be captured.
OMG I'm so nervous about tomorrow.
My tummy is in knots, K.
I just got off the phone with our photographer she's on call to capture everything if the trach comes out.
Hugs,
Lisa
Teaching us all, again.
Another happy learner, Barbara
hey I am new here . I came across this site .. I love the positivity
see ya
You still got the cute mommy and me picture.
Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting. I'm enjoying browsing through your blog. You're a great writer!
heather
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