Thursday, June 17, 2010
Doctor Dan visit and Other therapies ( Week of June 14)
Thank you for those wrote.
Always love your comments
A couple of comments expressed concern on DAN.
Appreciate your concern very much
So wanted to add a little about our DAN journey
Also wanted to add a disclaimer as our choosing biomedical methods is not a ringing endorsement of the methods in general.
It all depends on what your child needs, what you can afford ( in terms of time and money ) and of course always being safe finding someone good and ethical
The magic words in Autism are
When we started on our Autism journey, we ignored the biomedical aspects ,
Then a couple of years back we did a urine test "just to rule things out" and found that R had very high levels of mercury
We also found through food allergy testing that R had a gluten allergy
We looked for a doctor who treated these types of issues - we found a good one - he is a regular pediatrician who takes regular insurance and has a regular practice
However his daughter has autism and so he set out to learn about DAN
I assure you were are very level headed and have made sure that we "first do no harm"
Plus he is a very good doctor and he is frequently telling us about all the quackery that we must avoid
Another thing is we are not trying to "cure" autism or that the things we do means that we don't accept him fully
I think you all know that how much we adore him
Frankly we do not even see R through the Autism lens at all
It is simply about meeting his needs - be they an allergy to wheat or apraxia
DAN treatments get a very bad name in the ASD community ( frequently deservedly for charlatans and quacks abound )
But we have kept a very open mind in looking at options for R - neither swayed by miraculous cures nor throwing out the baby with the bathwater at stories about the DAN Quacks
Saturday is the long trip to Nashville to see our DAN doctor
R is always very stimmy in these appointments -
I realized on our drive to Nashville out that this was because he was afraid of a blood draw
So I tell him in the car several times that there will only be "talk and no hurts" this trip
This has a marvelous impact on R 's mood - and he gives the doctor a hug when he sees him - he is also calm and plays with a plane and a car ( "Very appropriately") in the doctor's office
The doctor is delighted
However he is also very gracious and says that we are doing so many things for R that it is very hard to say what is working
This is one of the many reasons I love this doctor !
There are many charlatans who do DAN - not this doctor
MIL asks us anxiously on the phone as to what the doctor said and touches every wood when I tell her what the doctor said ( that he is doing very well )
I dont necessarily share her elation though
DH and I simply do not use other people any more to tell us about R.
Its extremely valuable input - but certainly not the verdict.
On our Autism journey -where no one really knows what the cause is , nor why there is an epidemic , nor what the cure is ... we deal with a lot of ambiguity !
We now see specialists as people who give us directions on our way -
Someone unscrupulous may deliberately mislay you .. another may have the best intentions but not the knowledge of the way ...
If you are lucky you find someone who has knowledge and good intentions.
But even when you are lucky ( as we are ) and work with a lot of people who are good AND know thier stuff .. no one really knows the way in any definitive sense
We find we must be able to judge who seek advise from .. be able to recognise a wrong road and be willing to course correct .
For instance, we know that R's mood in testing situations is a big predictor as to how well he tests
I always remember back to the early days when within a week two specialists hinted at future genius and doubts on cognitive ability
In this case simply not having the anxiety of a blood draw meant that he "tested well" and was described as "developmentally exploding"
Everybody talks about autism being a spectrum
But parents of autistic children often notice that our children move up and down the spectrum in the same day !!!
Our doctor wants to do more testing on heavy metals and this always makes me uncomfortable -
Becasue I fear it will lead to a recommendation on chelation
I do not know why I fear chelation - I only know that I do
DH and I confer quickly and decide to at least do another baseline test to see what heavy metals he still has - his first test results showed mercury and last year showed some ( not too high ) lead
On our car ride back I tell DH that I want to be done with DAN
I cannot believe I am saying this !
I am always the person in favor of action - of doing things .. of not missing something that R needs
DH replies " we can be done if you want to "
But I dont know if we are ready to be done either .. dont know if we feel we have done enough
Eventually we decide that we will continue for another 8 months or so for usually the DAN protocol is a 3 year protocol ( and also depending upon what the next set of heavy metals and labs show )
We stop at Cracker Barrel at Lebanon
Oh how I adore their Pecan Pancakes !!Another reason I love Cracker Barrel is because its one of the few places I can feed my Bit of Honey Addiction
I am back to being a great big Fatty and must exercise more restraint and also exercise
We smuggle in the important Mc Nuggets for R
R plays in the playground at the Mall and hides beneath tables in the shops - ...its so cute when he peeks out of the curtain
One of the delights of being mum to R is that even at 5, there is such a sweet babiness to him
This week it seems all our therapists are for one reason or another unable to come for therapy for R- car trouble, illness etc
I feel like I must in fact compensate for this - this state of fewer hours of help that he is getting from the outside
However he suddenly seems really relaxed and happy under this benign neglect.
Mad for the swimming pool that DH has put up
Playing with his letters in the bathtub making longer and longer sentences
Here he has written "The Talking words factory" - one of his Fave movies .. sorry the T is missing
It again reminds me that holidays are important too
Easy to forget that
My insidious mommy guilt is ever alive and reminding me that I dont do enough
But as I keep saying at work .. let the data guide you .. and so I am teaching myself to be okay with this time of just being
We made a decent therapy schedule for the summer .. it seems to really be falling apart from time to time
And its somehow still okay