Saturday, June 5, 2010

SOOC Saturday: The things R teaches me

I learn so much from R

One of these things is his focus  and enjoyment on what he is interested in

There is much to be said about social referencing ( indeed its a big one we are teaching now )

But a part of me loves his focus on his interests

( Indeed its a big one I am teaching myself.. how to enjoy life and things and experiences without people-pleasing and impressing  being my  primary purpose.

 For often this acute focus on the way I come across to people, is  my primary source of unhappiness.

Even when its not a source of unhappiness - its certainly is a skewed  and narrow filter through which to look at, to enjoy and live  life )

Here he is – sitting outside the Blue Willow Inn - engrossed in the book ( the scintillating tale of Barney's 12 days of Christmas ) that he must finish now- regardless of what is around him .


While I want him to pose for a cute mommy-and-me picture. I so want to ask him  again to come to me and look at the camera

But then,  I  suddenly realize that the memory I want to keep of this moment is not the pose for the camera

But of  the things that people like R and people like me can learn from one another

A way to enjoy life through people

And a way to enjoy life with your own interests

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24 comments:

Marvelous Mommy said...

Great picture and story! Visiting from Melody's @ Slurping Life. Have a marvelous weekend!

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Kim said...

So true. I just love reading your blog, you give me a lot to think about! Lovely picture.

Mr. Daddy said...

I dont' think that I have read one post of yours that hasn't spoken to my heart....

You truly are one of God's special treasures...

R and your DH are very lucky and blessed to have you.

great post AGAIN!!!!

Ashley Sisk said...

Your writing is beautiful and I love this moment.

Melody said...

I know I say this all the time, but it's true. You always touch my heart and teach me. The photo is perfect.

Like Mr. Daddy said, you're one of God's special treasures and so is R. Think maybe God knew what He was doing when He paired you guys? :)

Sara @ Life With the Two said...

This post, makes my heart smile. And my face. Absolutely beautiful.

Lisa said...

K,

You rock, actually your whole family does. Thanks for your thoughts for Gage and I.

Hugs,
Lisa

Li said...

Love this so much. So good to be reminded that it's not all about teaching our kids but learning from them as well.

TJ said...

MR. Daddy - your post made me cry - because you are spot-on. I haven't been keeping up lately, K. You're still beautiful . . . not that you need to care that I see that, of course! lol ;) (((hugs)))

shirley said...

Beautiful! I love the story behind the photo - that is what is important and remembered.

Mia said...

What a wonderful outlook and a wonderful picture.

Rachel said...

Love that you captured the moment just as it was. And he will probably enjoy looking at it when he's older and recalling that he loved that book!

(And it is always heartwarming to me - kids who love books! :)

Kari said...

As always, a very sweet picture and a sweet post. There's a Blue Willow Inn here in GA, but I don't think it's the same one, is it?

Julie said...

I love the picture...and your way with words, as always. You seem to put into words thoughts that I have, but can't express. I love taking pictures and it used to frustrate me that Daniel wouldn't pose or look at the camera. Occasionally I still ask him to look at the camera, but I love our pictures so much more now...because we're capturing photos of LIFE. There is so much more depth than just a cheesy smile at this or that landmark. hehe! =) I love how you took the picture anyway as a this-is-us-moment.

danette said...

I love this, the picture and the story it tells, and your perspective on it. I figured out a long time ago that I wasn't going to be able to get the "nice, posed" pictures I wanted at the time, but it took a little longer for me to let go of being frustrated about it and really appreciate the "this is my boys being themselves" photos as they were. I have to say, I think the "being themselves" pictures are so much better and I love looking back at those (and capturing new ones) :).

Caroline (Frogmum) said...

Sweet shot! R is adorable and your blog is inspiring ;D!!

DH said...

This is the Blue Mist Inn in TN. Kari, you are correct the Blue Willow Inn is in GA - K and I have enjoyed the food there.

blackknightsbrood said...

"While I want him to pose for a cute mommy-and-me picture. I so want to ask him again to come to me and look at the camera

But then, I suddenly realize that the memory I want to keep of this moment is not the pose for the camera"

I love this part. So true!! Our girl doesn't like having her picture taken, and I learned at some point not to try to force the issue. We capture the moments that are there to be captured.

Lisa said...

OMG I'm so nervous about tomorrow.
My tummy is in knots, K.
I just got off the phone with our photographer she's on call to capture everything if the trach comes out.

Hugs,
Lisa

TherExtras said...

Teaching us all, again.
Another happy learner, Barbara

Anonymous said...

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Þorgerður said...

You still got the cute mommy and me picture.

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