“ I never hide from my children when I am leaving the house “ one of my colleagues used to say when I was working in India” I tell them firmly – mummy is leaving now.. …what are you teaching your kids if you hide from them when you leave”
I always am impressed by people who say things firmly
I am a wiffler waffle! Always seeing things from a dozen different perspectives.
Everything in shades of grey.I envy the people who have the clarity of black and white
So I remembered what Meenakshi ( the colleague ) said many years before I even became a mother and vowed I would do the same
Many years later when I became a mum – a working traveling mum- I remembered this
So when I would leave for a trip out of town I would write down for R
“Mom go in Big Jet “
But it never had the effect I hoped for.
In fact on two consecutive trips – R actually got a fever when I was leaving.
So I stopped telling him
This past week I have been reading on Happiness( in the Happiness Project Blog)
One interesting observation that the author makes was on how important it is to look forward to things.
And to have things to look forward to.
This is certainly true in my life
My day is full of little treats.
The look of intense love on R’s face just before he pulls me close for a tight hug , unable to bear being apart for one more moment.
The happy dance he does when he sees me,
The feel of the crook of DH’s shoulder when I rest my head on it ( it always seems so wrong when people in movies. who are only acting, lie together with the wife’s head resting as though in a perfect fit on her fake-husband’s shoulder). Clearly one woman’s head should fit on only one man’s shoulder.
( Shouldermates! Like soulmates !)
The first sip of coffee.
Getting connected with all my virtual, satellite and real friends, Reading blogs and my readers’ comments,
Treats are strewn throughout my day
And truly thinking of all these treats to look forward to makes my days full of happiness
Thinking of this- the need to look forward to things – has made me change what I write out for R when I leave
For its not just important for him to know that
Monday – Mom Go in big Jet to Denver
But to also look forward to
Wednesday – when mama come home
This time he did not fall sick
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