"If you want to move someone, find out what moves them."a speaker said at a work meeting. He is speaking to Marketers about consumers
But I am thinkng of this statement today, as I am playing with R in the evening.
The child loves technology.
The WiiFit and the DVD are his toys of choice
While ideally our children are supposed to spend their time with "appropriate" toys and minimal time with electronics - its hard to enforce this strictly.
Largely for reasons of compassion.( some for reasons of laziness and fatigue )
Most Autistic kiddos work so hard between school, therapy and appropriate play in their precious carefree childhood years that it seems so heartless to take up their little free time with more of the things they should be doing
In the evening during R's ABA, I watch a rerun of a House MD show about an Autistic boy.
House , commenting on the amount of therapy the boy gets, says to Cameron( I think he empathizes with the feeling of being an outsider)
"there is an inner circle of skinny white people and there are the people who dont belong... like this Autistic boy.... The people in the inner circle must beat all the people on the outside into shape. Or they must institutionalize them so they are no longer eye sores."
The parents in the show are the "ideal" parents of autism recovery books ( the ones who give up their lives so they can become parent therapists to their children) . The child's day is so over scheduled that my heart twists in compassion for the child ( and the parents )
I resolve today to see if Floortime principles of following the child's lead can work with Floortime must-nots ( electronics ).
So we do the Wii Fit and I turn that into a bit of a Floortime Session- with a lot of back and forth interaction on where I should step and what I should do.
Then over dinner R wants to listen to some Classical Music on his DVD -
I make that Floortimey too.
By asking him if I should sing or be quiet
When he says "Siduh" ( sing )
I am extra silly and sing the tunes in numbers ( example for Blue Danube its 12345.....1 2 3 4)
We do the Blue Danube, the Four Seasons, some George Bizet in this way
And R is Entranced
Music and numbers in one heavenly concoction!
And keeps choosing different songs for me to "Siduh" ( Sing ) in "Burz" Numbers
We have effortless Joint Attention, Back and Forth interaction.
We also have a great time
I am Magic Mum this evening.
And it feels good