Here are some of the bits of this past month that I want to save and remember
We are slowly settling into the cabin .
Most of the heavy lifting has been done .
Here is DH and me moving our bar – this is solid wood and it literally ( well not literally ) killed us to move this !
DH and I really love the cabin
On Sunday mornings we wake up to sunlight instead of the clock which feels most natural
What adds to our joy R is mad for the cabin and asks for "New cabin New house" all the time !
The name of our cabin used to be "Life is good".
Here is a picture of the first cup of tea I made and drank here and I want to remember this moment always
I love looking at the woods.
Sometimes drinking coffee and reading a book ( this last weekend was "Death of a Cad ")
Sometimes just staring at this
I think of all the dramas that have played out in these forests and how all of it passes .
I am reminded of the fact of my temporariness and the temporariness of all my woes and worries and I find it deeply comforting
We end up going every Saturday afternoon to be enveloped in the calm of these trees and leave the world behind
We were robbed
I left our garage door open for a little bit to let a bat out.
Someone came in and stole my wallet, GPS and DH's power tools
Our county police was super efficient and came in and took fingerprints etc but we have had no luck in recovering anything
I don't mind the things much at all – DH cancelled the cards immediately and the other things we can do without/replace
The worst thing is that my sense of safety in our neighborhood is forever gone .
I can no longer tell the story of how its easy to leave your house unlocked or your car out
The end of summer and the start of real life
I have often mentioned how depressed I get when summer ends and school starts again
This year R is to get a mixture of Special Ed and regular ed.
I like his Special Ed teacher very much
Regular Ed feels scary as it has 17 kids and I don't think they get Autism
Changing the home therapy program
We are also thinking that it may be time to modify the mix of what R gets
DH has talked about this for the past couple of months and I am really seeing the wisdom of what he is saying – he is such a smart guy and has his own mind
We are not sure that ABA is the right thing for him anymore
I think one has to keep evolving the home program to the needs of the child
Yesterday I was talking to E about this and I told her how a program with discrete trial things like
"Dora is ….. ( and he has to fill in "a girl )" is not optimal on so many levels
First of all once he knows the answer there is no benefit in repeating it 20 more times
You could debate back that it helps with compliance
And I would say to that – that I am not trying to apply for the position of "least troublesome inhabitant of group home" but for R to live independently
The second thing that is wrong with a program like that is that its an open ended statement that should not have one right answer – example it could end with
"pretty", "Spanish", "a child", "a singer", "a dancer", "a friend of Boots "
What do you want then ? E asks patiently when I had climb off my soapbox
I want him to be able to answer questions like "what is your name" ? I reply
And then one day ..I want him to ask that question of someone...
Spontaneous and unprompted
Learning to Pretend
Pretend play has been just a great add to the summer program
The other day DH had to drop R off at my office so he could get a blood test and R found a wooden puzzle piece where he pointed to the bottom of the shape and said
"is a trapezoid" ( which it is but I had to look it up )
Of course I am impressed that my 5 year old knows what a trapezoid is
But here is the really cool part .
He then put it on his head – pretended it was a crown and said – "King "
Yes you are R, Yes you are !