Saturday, May 18, 2013

The second week of May

More glimpses of our life

The weekend

DH and I have found a way to find time together for just us .

This is Saturday when R has therapy for 4 hours .

The first 2 hours we usually cook. The second two hours depending on where R's social skills class is - we take a walk or we go out to lunch .

This weekend is one of our first sunny weekends  and dropping him off at the Sky zone ( which is giant set of trampolines ) DH head out for a gorgeous park.


See that line behind me

They are turtles

See this big turtle and little turtle make their way towards each other

I have heard that turtles are mean creatures and that turtle soup is delicious

But I do not think of those terrible things

And just imagine that the two turtles are mum and child , floortiming away
Sunday

Is also sunny .

 Its so rare to have the sun in Seattle that you are in an agony because you want to make sure that you can quickly arrange your chores so you can be outside

I am in such a frenzy - scared that the sun will go - that I am almost wishing it was a rainy day

We walk ( when R's therapist is here )

The best part of today is when we  get the hammock out

It feels like the end of something dark and gloomy (there is no doubt that last year has taken a heavy toll on us )

Monday - Friday

I usually try to write a little everyday .

But this week I did not and so it will all come out higgledy piggeldy

An Irish woman, a Chinese man

I meet an Irish woman in the park.

Such a delightful accent she has - I imagine what it would be like to met my friend Looking for Blue Sky or Jazzy Gal

To my shock I realize that I have been reading her blog in my voice - Indian/Bengali/Delhi/British.

This must be rectified

I tell her how much I love Maeve Binchy

( I wonder if Irish people this is like the Indian equivalent  curry , in the South I always got some comment around curry sometimes even the inexplicable "no offense, I don't like curry" ...  which of course always provokes me to think of wicked things to say like " well then what shall we talk about " ..  )

She tells me how sad this is that she ( Maeve Binchy )  is dead

I immediately realize that perhaps she did not understand my accent


I immediately realize that she probably does not understand what  I meant

But later I find that indeed she did understand and Maeve binchy is indeed dead at only 72 - how terrible


Accents are a real factor in conversations in this very cosmopolitan city

The other day a Chinese man and I got talking and we were talking about how his daughter has started to talk
As I said that R talked late as he is autistic - he beamed and said wonderful

Later I realized that he thought I was boasting about R being artistic

Play Therapy

I am too lazy to do real floortime

I just follow the lead in R's eccentric choices ( taking photos of road signs, making a chart of numbers, eating the same thing in the park everyday)

DH and I are trying hard on getting R to answer us

He is the master of ignoring a question


Motivation is powerful.

Q: how long does it take to teach R to take a photo with zoom
A: Just show him once

Q: how long does it take to answer a question about an inference " why are there branches on the ground"
A : Eternity!!! finally I give him the answer with gritten teeth " because there was a storm?"

Games

DH and I are trying to get him to play with us -

Nowadays he is blowing up his allowance at the Educational Store and different kinds of Bingo is really his thing

So we try to use this
But always this is like pulling teeth

Still we remind ourselves

That

1. He regularly plays with Miss Brittany
2. Its a whole different world than when we used to try and play when he was really little

For one thing he understands what we say ( this in itself is pretty impressive for us as words took so long to come  )

New interests

Right now R's new interests are in photography

He takes  selfies

Pics of the characters on the Wii

And sometimes he even takes pics of us



The weekend :The Hike Bike and Boat Sojourn

DH has signed us up for a VERY hectic weekend

We usually spend our weekend ensconced in sloth and here we are going to a day of endless activity

Oh but its so worth it

To see R being able to ride a bike effortlessly - just look at his face





 To snuggle with R in the 100 year old forest
to watch the gorgeous river and mountains
But most of all I am just amazed by some mothers I meet here

With such admiration, I see a woman who has chosen to adapt an severely handicapped child

What is even better is that she has done such a fabulous job of teaching her sign language that the child is so beautifully engaged and so clearly happy

There is a lot of misery  in this world - but thankfully there is also a lot of love
 

14 comments:

jazzygal said...

Such a wonderful catch up post! I love your photos: the hammock, the turtles...the CUTE turtles! And the photos of you, of course. great that R is riding his bike and into photography.

Thanks so mush for the mention :-) Maeve Binchy did die young, very sad, she was ill. She lived in Dalkey, Just 2 small towns away from me. her husband gave a small speech at a short play of hers that a pal of mine was in, last January in Dallkey.

Oh...and from watching Grey's Anatayomy I think that Irish weather is very similar to Seattle. An American friend of mine living in Ireland totally agrees with me!

xx Jazzy

Yuji said...

Interesting that R is into photography now... maybe he really is "artistic." :)

Glad you and DH are able to have such quality time to yourselves, and found such a beautiful area to spend the time.

Thanks for another nice post!

Kris said...

Oh how I love your posts! I think it is great that you and DH have found time for yourselves. And that R has found an interest in photography. Love the hammock as well!!

Þorgerður said...

lovely picures.
I cannot believe that turtles are mean creatures. Why would the need such a hard shell.
Loks like you are having a good time :)

Bright Side of Life said...

Can I just say... the Irish accent is LOVELY and I can vouch for that because I have met both Blue Sky and Jazzy ("Hi, Jazzy".. waving!).

I also really enjoyed reading Maeve Binchy and was so sad when she passed away. Let us know if you would like the names of some other authors from Ireland.

Great to hear that you manage to get some special time with your hub's, so important in the grand scheme of things.

Lizbeth said...

I love the beauty in the small things, oftentimes we forget there is beauty right in front of us. You always remind me of that, thank you.

Julie said...

I loved catching up! So many wonderful activities. :) Daniel has been loving wii characters and making some to look like characters from shows. :)

Looking for Blue Sky said...

There is a lot of love in the world, thank goodness, and so important to remember. Love reading your catch ups, but you forgot to post up the photos that R took of you and DH?

And thank you so much for the mention, and it was lovely reading through the comments from my friends Jazzygal and The Bright Side of Life. Perhaps you will come to Dublin one day too :)

robin said...

Love the special time you and DH have together. Even if it's cooking for the week or doing nothing, it's time devoted to each other and makes for a long healthy close relationship! R has a wonderful example and a hard act to follow when he becomes a man.

Tanya Savko said...

R is looking so big in these photos! Perhaps because Nigel just went to prom and I am noticing how all the kids are growing up. Lovely post, and I love Maeve Binchy too :)

kathleen said...

I am so glad that you and your husband are getting to spend some time together just being..we too are getting to that stage and it is wonderful..

My husband has an accent-which is sexy and beautiful...I am hearing impaired...it has made for some very interesting conversations!!

I hope that you get some more sun soon..we have had a very very long winter here in Maine...I too am longing for sunshine..

Your boy has grown so much! I would love to see more of his photography...

I have never eaten turtle soup!

Jenny Saul-Avila said...

"DH and I are trying hard on getting R to answer us

He is the master of ignoring a question."

Good lord, that's my son. I mean, if he's in a perky happy mood - but not a hyper stimmy happy mood - I can get answers really fast & spontaneous. But man, there are times that I want to smack my head against something really hard. "Nathaniel, do you want breakfast? Do you want breakfast? Nathaniel? ..." AAAAHH!
;)
And he also will not do structured floor time with us. Our summer is approaching & today at his IEP, the people there suggested trying to implement the type of circle time activities, yada yada that they do, on a structured schedule.
HA!

Stories Untold said...

You bet there is alot of love! Off late owing to big transitions in our lives, I manage to just about keep me updated with your world through your blog, its such a refreshing and hopeful read always. And I agree the pictures are lovely and you look gorgeous.

Kim said...

So glad you had some sun! Love the photos!

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