Thursday, June 14, 2012

A week in our life

My dear readers .. I am finally caught up on all your blogs

I thought I would do one of those posts that I love reading later  .

A week in our lives

Friday Night

I return from a week away for work .

R is a little distant from me

But he has had a much better week in general as I have put a full schedule in writing -

When I will  leave and when I will be back as well as his therapist schedule

Also, since I dont want to drive to the cabin ( DH is out of town as he is dropping an exchange student and then spending the weekend with some of our friends in North Carolina ) DH has shrewdly got the Wii from the cabin

This is one of R's major incentives for going to he cabin as he gets days of Wii

R sits away from me and I give him a little space - when I come back every evening from the office he makes a fuss of me - but when I am away this long ( 5 days in this case ) he needs some time to get used to me
But by the time night rolls around he is feeling more positively predisposed to me.

I am not above bribes to get back in his good books  have told him Saturday will be a day of no work and no office and I will do whatever he wants to do .


DH side of the bed is empty and it makes me sad.

I have not seen him for 6 days and I am missing him like a part of me is gone


Saturday 

R is up at 4 and asking to go to Walmart !

We go and the first thing he wants to buy is the Wii Play Motion Plus -

This is a video game a new back remote and a box. ( its also $50!!!)

The rest of the shopping trip he stays busy sitting in the cart , unwrapping his treasure and drooling over his new items and MIL and I are free to shop

We stop at Target to see swimming pools to buy and he demands to buy the most expensive one

Not only is it expensive, its also large and heavy and I do not want to deal with it without DH

I bargain with him saying that if he goes home without asking for the pool - I will take him to the Y pool

He bargains back, saying that perhaps I could also get him the Black Wii Nunchuk.
( while I am really proud at his shrewdness,  I give him the super-stern eyes - a skill I learned at my mother's knee )

We go home get lunch and head to the YMCA pool -

Guys I hate swimming.  Do you like it ?

Its annoying and messy and my hair takes forever to dry and  the water is invariably cold - but R just LOVES it - I see him giggling at the pool and it really makes it worth it for me

( plus I never say no to any physical activity for me screen-addict)

Sunday 

We have a great time in the morning - doing nothing really just pottering about

In the afternoon, R has his therapy sessions, and I and my MIL tackle the playroom -

 My MIL is a MASTER cleaner between the 2 of us the playroom is spick and span in an hour or so
In the evening we go to the park

DH comes back in the night and I am so relieved I end up eating a lot of sweet things .

Happiness makes you fat


Monday 

is a super intense day at work .

When I come home , I am horribly tired and drained , but I decide, I am going to go out and play with R anyways

Even when we do nothing productive and Floortime wise - as long as we are outside, I chalk it as Quality time

Sometimes I entice him to come outside telling him we can do the Ipad

And then when he is sitting on the swing , I tell him I can only push him if the Ipad is not in his hand

Such are the devious ways of mothers

 Tuesday 

DH is off playing golf - I pick him up from OT - where the OT informed me that he( R, Not DH )  cried a lot .

 R likes his therapists to be loving and playful and his OT is matter of fact and professional ( but she is very good at her job and has taught R a lot )

At the OT there is a child who is very talkative and argumentative and the mother is very embarrassed by him.

 I find I have been staring and quickly explain to the mom that I am only staring because I am so impressed by the speed at which he is picking up words in front of my eyes - the mother says thank you and also thanks me for saying something nice when she was feeling bad

There is a lot of solidarity in the waiting rooms of therapy mums

Me and MIL and SIL go to Kohls to buy some new outfits for my SIL - where I quickly succumb to the joy of clothes and find myself buying  a maxidress ( which I just last month made fun of for being like a night
gown )

These days, I am noticing an increase in babyness in R - I dont know what else to call it

He sings Twinkle twinkle little star , plays Peek a boo .. the other day I caught him staring at his hands ( the way infants do )
While this is so incredibly adorable , I remind myself from time to time that he is seven years old ( and this worries me )

At the same time, he IS changing for now when he is in the bathtub , he will do simple things with numbers .. but he will also count by 4's, 8's etc


Wednesday 

I am racking my brains on what to get for DH's Father's day and I finally told him that I would just give him cash and that he could call me Uncle-Wife

DH and I make a Watermelon smoothie for everyone and we bake pizza for R

I drag R outside - MIL has made a dozen pajamas for R ( which are his favorite outfit and he drops his pants or shorts on the floor as soon as he gets back to the house and runs to get his pajamas- I think its a good idea and if it did not make me look like a lazy lump, I would wear my granny nightdress as soon as I got home )

We have a lot of fun outside, playing, swinging , jumping . I think while the screens are addictive , so is sensory fun

R is finally brave enough to touch the tomato plants - it has been interesting to see systematic desensitization - in practice

A couple months ago he would run from me if I touched the plant - yesterday he was touching and smelling by himself
( did you see his multicolored shoes - its his own unique fashion statement )

I do his Goodnight routine and he gets all his trains and make them lie on their side -


I never knew I would love being a mother so much

But being R's Mum, feels like a exclusive privilege

This is what an ordinary week in my life looks like - thank you my friends if you had the patience to read along 

8 comments:

Jenny S-A said...

I love this post - I am new to your blog - this is the first I've read & I definitely will be reading more. I love the part about solidarity in therapy waiting rooms - I'm learning this quickly.
My son also doesn't like to touch plants - weird.

Kris said...

Love reading your blog! I hate the pool too. But my kids also like it so I go and tolerate it.

It is so true that there is much solidarity and support in therapy waiting rooms. I have had some of my most inspirational, informative and supportive conversations in waiting rooms of therapy offices. Often I don't know the other person's name.

Sounds like R is learning the art of negotiation!

Yuji said...

What a wonderful post! You move me with the descriptions of some of the simplest things. The warmth and love of your family come through in all the little things.

Puffin said...

I'd love to be able to wear one of those maxi dresses! I bet you look lovely. What a lovely peek into your life! :)

Marsupial Mama said...

So heartwarming! I love his multi-coloured shoes! And the way he lies the trains on their sides to sleep, how adorable is that?!

Julie said...

I love all the little bits and pieces that you share! :) I hope this week is less stressful and busy for you.

Þorgerður said...

Lovely.
we love swimming over here :D The pools are warm. Think you both would like that.

The Bright Side of Life said...

I enjoyed reading about your week. Phew, our kids.... how easily they become addicted to screens!! Such is life! Have a restful weekend and enjoy your new dress! :-)

Floortime Lite Mama

On my life as the mother of an adorable 5 year old with Autism and Apraxia