Friday, April 9, 2010

W/O April 8th: in which we play the part of languid invalids with a martyred air

 All the days of this week has run together but I do want to record it so I remember

The weather is TEXTBOOK gorgeous

Sunny Skies day after day!

The South is in its full glory with the trees heavy with peach blossom and dogwood

But my home is full of mailaise and discontent

DH and I are sick

I clean to soothe myself - as it gives me a sense of control - organise all of  R's books by size and age range

-( any wonder why Autistic people feel soothed by lining things up? )


We are not at our best when sick.

Our conversation  detereiorates


"This part of my head feels extra heavy now "

"I could not sleep at all last night"

"The Antibiotics are making my tummy hurt

"Ugggggh I am so tired "


Other random things break
  1. Our bed
  2. R's glasses break -both of his glasses - as he has been rubbing his eyes endlessly with all the allergies
  3. Our garage door

Does it happen to you where one anoying event follows another ?

Sometimes I wonder if there is anything to this law of attraction nonsense!

By mid week I decide that we are going to act better - because for me - pretending  is frequently followed by the real things

Fake it till I make it !
Also I realise that my focus has really shifted

I am focussing on everything that annoys me not the things that make me happy

Like just how gorgeous it is !

It really is heavenly outside and I resume taking my walks

DH and I try to eat out at lunch on both Tuesday and Wednesday - even though we are weak and tired

Still its better than nothing

I also change the content of what I say  - instead of sharing the horrible-ness of how I am feeling - I start speaking with the use endearments again

Instantly I start to feel better

R is really starting to answer questions  really well that are close ended

"Do you want to go  from the front of the house or the back of the house?"

he will answer "Front of the house "

Really he learns language like an older person learning a foreign language .. but he is learning it !

One interesting thing I am noticing is that while he is always very polite - he really does try to always get his own way

His interest is in not getting caught

One crime is that he likes to sit on the computer table

Every time I see him committing this diabolical crime - I squeal in horror

R looks at me contritely

He says "Ooops ... sorry" ( I have to work really hard to not smile as its ADORABLE )

But then as soon as I walk away

There he is on the computer table again !

This is lovely

My MIL and SIL arrive for a visit

 R is excited to see family come to visit - this is such a change

The last time they came , he become extra stimmy and appeared stressed

They fawn over him and he fawns over them - this is fabulous because him Grandma and Aunt dote on him

My MIL is a workaholic - though I picked up and cleaned before they came - she immediately gets a broom and a pan and starts to scrub and dust

The house is sparkling

We go to his new Kindergarten Classroom - he will start in August

They have no special ed classes any more - so everyone is mainstreamed

The classroom size is alarming - the current classroom is 22 - I worry that R will simply be lost

I take some pics of the essays that are depicted outside - the outgoing class has proudly displayed these

R must know this by the end of the year

We want to make sure - we support the academics so he can focus on the Social - as Danette and her DH advised in their blog once

Work has been uber stressful and I am suffering from insomania again

My goal for the next week is to focus on the important stuff - get some sleep , be more productive ( especially in terms of floortime )  and worry less

It’s not the work which kills people, it’s the worry. It’s not the revolution that destroys machinery it’s the friction.”

~Henry Ward Beecher



Kim said...

"oops...sorry" That made me smile! So sorry you and DH were both sick this week--with this awesome weather, how terrible! It's amazing how when you change what you focus on, negative vs. positive, you're whole being shifts. Always amazes me.

Trish said...

So sorry to hear that you have not been well, especially when the weather has been so nice. I just heard of a natural antihistamine that I am going to try for my seasonal allergies. It's called D-Hist and you can get it at (it's a site run by a DAN! doctor my friend uses for her son). I'm hoping it will help me!

Will R have an aide for kindergarten? It's no fun to hear, but you may have to fight to get what he needs. The school has a responsibility to meet his social and adaptive needs just like academic needs, but they often don't unless parents push them to.

I hope you are back to feeling like yourself again soon. :)

Anonymous said...

The photo of the books upside down made me smile.

When I first learned the method of acting better when one does not feel like it - it was called 'as if'. Act as if you feel fine.

I believe in this method also.

R continues to progress, broken glasses and all. Barbara

JoyMama said...

Thanks for the "fake it till you make it" reminder. It's such a helpful technique, and yet I find it so hard to make myself do sometimes!

I hope that you continue to feel better. And that R continues to charm and amaze (actually I don't have to hope that one, I'm sure of it!)

Lyndsey said...

I'm sorry that you've both been sick. (((hugs))) I didn't realize that your in-laws were coming so soon! It seems like it is off to a good start, though. I'm so proud of R! Also, TWENTY-TWO CHILDREN??? Holy majoly. Really?? Crap. Crap. Crap. Crap. I need to go there next week to check it out. I agree, our babies will be lost. It makes me wonder about the other schools like we were discussing. If our school is one of the best here, what are the others like? I hope I didn't move my family to the wrong school district. {sigh}

Þorgerður said...

Hope you already made it and that you do not have to fake it. Sturla loves your new background.

Mr. Daddy said...

sorry you guys were sick, it has been going around up here too.

I must take your advise and start faking it.....LOL

thanks for the smiles K.

Rachel said...

I am still smiling and chuckling over the "oops... sorry!"

I hope you feel much, much better and are healthy and well-rested!

Best wishes in the new classroom!

Lisa said...

Gosh R is adorable and the progress is truly astounding!

K, seriously organizing the books?
Ummmm shall I purchase you a ticket to come to my abode, it needs serious organizing! I am crappy at that, I have an attention apan of a gnat I leave piles of disaster behind me because I can't stick to one project.

We all have been not well also except for Mr.Pedersen his immune system is like an ox. Everyone is tag teaming their virus onto the other person. Round 2 has started now with Gage, and Taiga is on the mend now finally. Sloan will be next I'm sure.

Your positive outlook, your words....leaves me just saying that You Rock!


Anonymous said...

Wow!!! you seem to have gravity defying books.

Floortime Lite Mama said...

Anonymous and Barbra - for some reason the picture was straight when I uploaded it - I swear !!!
But now the upside down is part of the story of this week to so I will let it stay
You guys are too nice
Trish I wiill def try the allergy med
Almost making it now

Brenda Rothman (Mama Be Good) said...

Sounds like allergies have you down! The pollen is particularly bad this year. Hope you are feeling better now.

R is adorable! Wow, he is making terrific leaps. So glad to hear it.

Get some rest and some tea.

robin said...

I hope you guys feel better's a shame to miss this part of the season by feeling so miserable. Everything outside here turns yellow on the surface from so much pollen in the air...ugh! I also love the cute "oops...sorry" comment. I wish I had a MIL who cleaned, or anybody who did, lol! I hope you enjoy your visit with them.

All About the Bailey's said...

I hope that you and hubby are feeling better by now, I'm at a loss of words that R's school will no longer have special ed classes, and then I hear that other schools are doing all different things, I just don't understand. I feel every school should have all the same options for our kids. I pray that things go smoothly for R.
I enjoy reading your posts so much.
Talk soon!

Anonymous said...

I'm playing catch-up... I hope you're feeling better. I'm going to try to stop focusing on the things that annoy me, too...

loved reading about R as always and was thinking of you today when Daniel closed the computer room door and tried to steal time on the computer!

danette said...

Like Julie, I'm still catching up too :)

I love reading about R's progress, sounds like he is really coming along!

I'm glad ya'll are feeling better, that is no fun. Love the cherry blossoms, I look forward to them every spring.

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