tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3920171049284403071.post1643746420494470506..comments2023-12-20T08:14:55.035-05:00Comments on Floortime Lite Mama: Speak softlyFloortime Lite Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07988840423227903784noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3920171049284403071.post-14054804042693840702009-11-26T03:58:09.890-05:002009-11-26T03:58:09.890-05:00Excellent advice... I admit I am guilty of that to...Excellent advice... I admit I am guilty of that too :(. We know our boys are paying attention even when they don't seem to be. We are also discovering that they have pretty good hearing and pick things up even when we think we are out of earshot (oops). This was a good reminder, thank you.danettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15555927841950877805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3920171049284403071.post-19839496660365153402009-11-24T13:13:22.881-05:002009-11-24T13:13:22.881-05:00This is so true. I have thought about this often,...This is so true. I have thought about this often, but it is still so easy to slip into talking about Michael with other adults in the room when he is there.<br /><br />Thank you for the reminder. We all need it!Trishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681523260739807543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3920171049284403071.post-63498357823723798022009-11-23T08:51:22.066-05:002009-11-23T08:51:22.066-05:00K, you are so right in this post, we have had this...K, you are so right in this post, we have had this conversation over and over again this year. It is so hard to not talk of the kids in front of them, I think because we are constantly trying to teach others, and not meaning to be negative just explaning details about our kids and why they do the things they do...great post! Oh and here's a <br /><br />Funny story:<br />Ethan accidently sees a video of a person carving a pumpkin with a very large knife, it was a cute funny adult video but he also enjoyed it...because the pumpkins actually talked...as he watched it his Grandmother had said he should not watch things like this, so I turn to her and say "Mother, if Ethan went to the kitchen, opened a drawer and got a knife and even showed any kind of interest in carving a pumpkin then I would be the happiest Mom.<br />10 minutes later Ethan goes to the kitchen opens the drawer and grabs two of the largest knives he could find and is standing there looking at us.....so I believe with all my heart they know and understand so much more than anyone gives them credit for.<br />PS I had to put away the knives for about a week so I could talk to him about not playing with knives..lolAll About the Bailey'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03200075808173994697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3920171049284403071.post-7646414376413036502009-11-22T22:00:33.411-05:002009-11-22T22:00:33.411-05:00this is something i really need to remember more. ...this is something i really need to remember more. thank you for the reminder.Stephaniehttp://www.robottea.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3920171049284403071.post-59239613816450364972009-11-22T09:12:44.753-05:002009-11-22T09:12:44.753-05:00Such very good advice...I love hearing R stories. ...Such very good advice...I love hearing R stories. That picture is lovely! It's also amazing how each of you can remember an event in time such as reading the book that seemed trivial at the time, but obviously memorable.robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16004240577952462737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3920171049284403071.post-83408723754757404822009-11-22T07:58:09.538-05:002009-11-22T07:58:09.538-05:00Oh, oh, oh. I do *so much* of this. And I'm ...Oh, oh, oh. I do *so much* of this. And I'm not even quite sure how I'd go about changing... I'm thinking of how I get information from all the folks who are coming to work with my daughter in our home (she's doing intensive therapy) -- what they write in their data-taking notes doesn't usefully summarize the overall "how did things go" -- but it's not safe to leave my kiddo alone in a room to step out and have the "how did things go" conversation out of her hearing.<br /><br />I've been thinking about this, though. I need to think more, and do more.JoyMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15073328328434957851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3920171049284403071.post-1581496172335176832009-11-22T01:21:46.477-05:002009-11-22T01:21:46.477-05:00My heart sank when I read this. Thinking of how o...My heart sank when I read this. Thinking of how often I do this. How often we do this. It is good advice and it is very true. Thank you for reminding me to be more contentious of this!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3920171049284403071.post-71231966740648401292009-11-21T14:33:29.548-05:002009-11-21T14:33:29.548-05:00Yes. I have noticed the same which is why I wonder...Yes. I have noticed the same which is why I wondered about having "the talk" if that would make things worse or not. I hope Daniel never feels like I feel something is wrong with him. I often feel frustrated that the doctor and his therapists talk about things in front of him. I think that overall we're positive, but I know he's taking it all in. (During a conversation about the exact same thing with his former OT, Daniel, who was busy drawing or something at the table said "blah, blah, blah" under his breath) lol!<br /><br />I love how you said it though- to speak softly. It's something I need to remember.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3920171049284403071.post-6077603168350326712009-11-21T11:09:13.359-05:002009-11-21T11:09:13.359-05:00Very well said K, and so very true.
Love the leaf...Very well said K, and so very true.<br /><br />Love the leaf picture of R, he is so darn cute and sweet.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />LisaLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10200374261640349644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3920171049284403071.post-58179305545778195722009-11-21T09:53:22.704-05:002009-11-21T09:53:22.704-05:00thanks for the reminder, I think that all parents ...thanks for the reminder, I think that all parents are guilty of this to some degree, the taping his session was agreat idea.stellarparenting.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04975942737904876508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3920171049284403071.post-21134142844885341402009-11-21T09:37:02.212-05:002009-11-21T09:37:02.212-05:00I love this. You really hit home, again. Thank yo...I love this. You really hit home, again. Thank you. I will "speak softly today". Thank you again.Territory Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04484634821984857878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3920171049284403071.post-67809104458519436642009-11-20T22:23:51.497-05:002009-11-20T22:23:51.497-05:00I know this, I believe it with all my heart, yet I...I know this, I believe it with all my heart, yet I still forget. Now that my C has more language, it's almost just as easy to slip into forgetting as it was when he had none, because I forget that while he can express many things, he does not (yet?) have the ability to express how my words about him feel. <br /><br />I don't generally talk negatively about him, but I do discuss his challenges with others when he's within earshot, particularly his fine-motor and coordination delays. I can only pray that because I usually sound matter-of-fact about it, he isn't sensing disappointment. <br /><br />Also, just this morning as I delivered him to school, the para introduced a new staff member who was along to observe. C responded w/ a "hello" and then "I missed you" which he has over-generalized because people love to hear they've been missed and respond so positively to. The para laughed out loud a bit and I reminded C that we save "I miss you" for family and friends that we already know. It would be better to say "nice to meet you." <br /><br />He got a big wiggly at this point and the para told him to keep his backpack on because it was time to go to Mrs. T's class (the reg ed class). He started wiggling his backpack off, which puzzled us at first, and then he said something to the effect of "I don't have a hanger in there!" No one else understood what he meant, but I quickly realized that he was saying that there was no hook for his backpack in her room. The child has been going to her room every morning for 2 months or so, and I'm sure no one thought he'd notice the difference. He did. <br /><br />P.S. I have Strange Son sitting on a shelf. I think I will pick it up and start reading it tonight.TJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08946542422779575739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3920171049284403071.post-30121573073567687552009-11-20T18:47:58.930-05:002009-11-20T18:47:58.930-05:00So very, very true. I remember well something I re...So very, very true. I remember well something I read from the book Strange Son, "The amazing thing about Dov is that he didn’t begin to communicate until he was nine years old, and it was only then that we discovered a boy we had not known before. A smart, caring, wonderful boy who, when we asked him what he had been doing all those years, simply spelled out: “listening”.” <br /><br />Thanks for the important reminder.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3920171049284403071.post-92212753061248653752009-11-20T14:28:25.250-05:002009-11-20T14:28:25.250-05:00Wise advice from a wise mama. And I'm bad whe...Wise advice from a wise mama. And I'm bad when it comes to this issue. And my husband is even worse.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07764022300747217993noreply@blogger.com